I have two questions: 1. Is vaginal intercourse alone prohibited before marriage, and are there authoritative sources for either yes or no available online? 2. Is vaginal intercourse alone acceptable within marriage, and are there authoritative sources for either yes or no available online? I have also posted this on Monachos.
What manner of physical sex is permitted?
Posted 21 November 2013 - 12:49 PM
I do not fully understand your questions.
Βehavior that married people have among them is not permitted before wedding.
In the historical language of the Church this kind of behavior is called "fornication" and it is prohibited by many Canons of the Church. What is prohibited is the overall behavior and not separate individual acts. Sexual behavior is not permitted as being part of the of married behavior, but even the cohabitation under the same roof between male and female (of not of the same family) is prohibited.
Church has a rigorous position on the issue because the over-familiarization between man and woman leads to excess of behavior which in turn leads to inflation which result in devaluation.
Posted 21 November 2013 - 01:03 PM
Lakis has provided the right answer. Sexual intimacy of any nature is generally a bad idea outside of marriage, if Holy Scripture, Holy Tradition, and the general guidance and time-honored wisdom of the Church are valued.
If that is not sufficient, I highly recommend you discuss this with an Orthodox priest, who really should not say anything in substance any different, but may be able to provide a more pastoral explanation.
Posted 21 November 2013 - 03:06 PM
Posted 21 November 2013 - 07:58 PM
Edited by Lakis Papas, 21 November 2013 - 07:59 PM.
Posted 22 November 2013 - 08:21 AM
I too recommend that you discuss this topic with your spiritual father. If you trust him and know him to be a man without prejudice and one whom you can confide in then you will enlightened on this subject. What occurs between a man and woman is special and should not be an expression of only one emotion : lust.
We have discussed this many times in the past. You can read the older posts and perhaps come to some conclusions for yourself.
Laki has expressed it very well in his above post. Roles become mixed and being intimate with another human being can be an expression of many things. Love, comfort, etc. Your spiritual father will know what to say to you.
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