Once again, it is out of the topic since we were talking about wedding parties, not about liturgical dances in the world to come. This said, my response is intended at the initial question by Angie that was asking about how to understand Saint Nikodemos's writings; more generally and not specifically about dance at wedding parties that are only an example of his many writings and essays.
I have read some books on St Nicodemos.
They are very deep books and there are a lot of things in their that a Christian in these days perhaps are not doing things correctly.
He talks of no perfume, no laughing, no jesting etc.
Could anyone explain how they are understanding this?
So, basically I can say that Saint Nikodemos is heavily based on previous Fathers, canons and church history, to such extent that sometimes he quotes them in detail and then makes almost a paraphrase. He is a wonderful compilator of ancient sources, and takes much time to present his arguments and proofs. So basically, his ethos is the ethos of the church that never changed on moral topics. I would call him, a good reminder of how Christianism is demanding on moral topics. I would be happy to discuss how some other people see his writings, live them practically.
In my case, they have been very useful. Let give an example about not putting perfume, that looks strange at first sight. There is a whole discourse on Christian morality in this. Saint Nikodemos explains that perfume has an enticing effect on some persons. And then, he reminds many teachings of Fathers telling that the one who entice, even if it was not the initial intention, bears a part of the sin (well, it is a quick summary of 10 wonderful pages) It may seem strange but reading this, I realized that when I put an after-shave that was smelling quite good (not for the smell but for the skin, otherwise I got some problems in the skin), a lady at church made strange comments to me (saying how handsome I was, how well I was smelling) that were quite inapproriate since she was married... Well, nothing happened but years later, reading Saint Nikodemos, I understood the thing about the perfume stuff... and pay more attention to this. Of course, not putting perfume does not mean you have to stink...