So the church doesn't hold to one specific view on this? My priest may say something different than another? That is puzzling to me.
The specific question of what is needed and suitable to you, personally, is something none here can answer - only your spiritual father, the priest of your parish.
But as for the Church, the Feast of the Nativity According to the Flesh of Our Lord and Saviour Jesus Christ (i.e. 'Christmas') is an essential part of the Church's life and worship; without it one does not have Orthodoxy.
But how your priest understands to best bring you into this understanding and practice is, as I say, something deeply personal that we could not (and ought not) pontificate on here. As Owen has said, this is part of the relationship of obedience that is your unique relationship with him.
INXC, Dcn Matthew
I understand the recognising of the Nativity (Christ coming in the flesh, fully human and fully deity, through the Theotokos). I agree with that. I'm speaking more along the lines of what is commonly called Christmass. The taking over of a pagan day, when shepards would obviously not be out in the cold, and calling it holy. The taking over of pagan symbols, the tree, and calling them good. This is where I'm puzzled by Owen's comments on obedience. Do you understand?
I'm afraid we keep cross posting. I keep trying to reply to a post before the one that shows up by the time I'm done typing lol. And ya'll definitely gave me things to bring up to Fr.