1) While I agree with the proposal for taking in account each personal peculiarity. I think there is still an abstract question that awaits to receive an answer. But if the answer is only provided in individualized mode, then there must be no valid general question regarding relationship with homosexual persons.
2) Regarding remedy and healing of sins, I think that before the healing there is another preceding stage, that is the repentance (according to the well known three stage path of repentance, purification, illumination that neptic fathers defined). How is it possible for a person to accept the healing when he/she is not aware of his/her illness?
3) Today, many consider homosexuality to be an identity issue. It is presented by many as an act of self-determination. When a christian is engaged in a social relationship with a homosexual he is related to that person, not to its actions - with the exception that the sexual identity of a person has public social manifestations as well as private ones. This is something that does not happen on other cases of sin. I understand that every sin affects who we are, it modifies our identity, somehow it designates the way we see ourselves. I think only in homosexuality the sinful acts are so intrinsically connected to the identity of the person. This perspective has not been examined by any Church Father or biblical incidents - as far as I know. Church has a clear viewpoint about the act that is related to homosexuality, that is a sin. But in the case of homosexuality the spiritual analysis from the Church Fathers is limited to simple rejection and sometimes demonization. Some Church Fathers talked about homosexual persons describe them as insane and foolish. But there is no elaboration on what is the christian perspective on the issue of identity that homosexuality generates.
Homosexuality is a very complex state and it is not right to eliminate the status of a homosexual in certain limited region. There is a story in Gerontikon, that a monk expressed his eros for blessed Achillas and then he run away from him, saying that he was ashamed of a nearby blind, paralytic, old monk. Τhen, saint Achillas praised the monk as a fighter, for running away from his passion and said: "this is not prostitution, but it is warfare with demons".
I think the original question was about this lack of patristic and theological clarity, on how to relate with a person that is "calling" to meet with us and has a mental identity that is not consistent with his/her birth-given physical one. I find this challenge left unanswered by the Orthodox Church, today. This is understandable because in the past the problem did not have this dimension. I believe that, in time, Church will provide the proper answers to new questions.
Edited by Lakis Papas, 15 November 2012 - 10:55 PM.